YOU HAVE TO READ THIS!

(This hand-written letter was scanned and emailed to us by this boy's grandmother. It has not been edited. John was so very moved by this letter, that he sent an immediate response to him along with autographed photos, cds, a t-shirt, etc.)

"hi, my name is joey and I am 9 years old. I saw mr. redum play his gitar and sing a cupple of weeks ago and really liked him a lot. he's pretty cool! i am sad and cry cuz mr. redum doesnt have his son any more. i live with my daddy now and i am so much happyer now but i am sad too. my momma told me lots of stuff about my daddy that was mean and not rite. but i didnt know this until just a while ago cuz she lied to me and fooled me for a long time. that hurt me and made me very sad. she doesnt like my daddy and didnt want me to see him any more. i couldnt see him or talk to him cuz she said so. this made my daddy sad and cry cuz my daddy didnt do any thing wrong. i didnt get to see my daddy for a long time since i was 7. every nite i say my prayers i pray for my momma to get better and so does my daddy. us boys really need to be with our daddies cuz we need each other and god says in the bible that he wnats this too. but we need our mommas too. i pray to god that all kids have there mommas and daddies every day and they stop fiteing about us. it is very sad if they dont. if mr. redum reads my letter i am happy. i wnat him to know that i want him and his son to be happy together too and get back together real quik. i want him to know that he reelly needs to save his son reel quik or he will get reelly reelly sick. thank you very much. love, joey."

"Put them all in prison and throw away the key is my vote! Malicious parents who are mostly mothers, crooked lawyers, corrupt judges, bad experts, those who assist and support, deserve no less for all the horrors and abuse they do without remorse or conscience to innocent children and their targeted parent, who is almost always the dad. These people, especially the vicious sick mothers, have to be stopped and held fully accountable. They are abusers who are destroying our families and our Constitutional Rights, all at a high personal profit. Sick! Don't ever give up, John, never! Know that there are a whole lot of us who support you."

"Children need to know who their fathers are. They need to have their fathers equally in their lives, not as part-time visitors or absent. Fathers are an essential part for their children's health and development psychologically, socially, and physically. Children need to know who all of their relatives are, not just those on the mother's side of the family. Children will fare better in life when they are connected with their entire family and raised equally by both capable parents. To deny, refuse, interfere, and not fully support these will cause unsurmountable horrors to come for both children and parents, not to mention for our society as a whole..."

"...that complete reform is needed within family law and their courts regarding fathers and their relationships with their children is far overdue, an understatement of fact, an absolute necessity. Short of absolute unequivocal proof that one or both parents are truly unfit to parent, that they are truly beyond rehabilitation once unequivocally proven to be unfit, no party at any level must ever interfere with or prevent true equality for both parents in raising their children. This is an inalienable human right which must be guaranteed, allowed, and fully supported without interference or management by any party, not by any state or federal government agency, not by any court, their officers, or their experts. It is the parental duty and responsibility of both the mother and father to ensure this continues without interruption or failure for the true well-being and health of their child."

Raising Awareness of Parental Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting

Those who are the initializing alienators and/or support such alienators must be stopped and severely punished. Children must never be used as "pawns" or allowed to become involved in the hate campaigns, selfish and self-serving agendas exercised by these offenders, never, as this is severe child and parental abuse. It is imperative that parents and all parties always keep the children uninvolved in spousal and ex-spouse "wars", making certain that adult issues are completely separate from parent/child issues. This must hold true for life.

A child must NEVER be told that one parent has hit or abused the other parent in order to manipulate the child into alienation, a very common tactic used primarily by malicious mothers. This holds especially true when a malicious mother tells this to the son about his father, as boys in particular are natural protectors and champions, especially regarding their mothers. Malicous mothers know this very well and use this abusive tactic often because they know that they can turn the son away from his father by doing so. This vicious lie and sick tactic is also used by malicious mothers to fool and sway all others, including Judges, attorneys, and experts.

If it has been absolutely and unequivocally proven first that there has been spousal abuse in the presence of the child, it would then and only then be appropriate to temporarily remove the child from the offending parent until there can be speedy healing of the problem. In this event, a speedy healing and reunification of child and parent is paramount. If there is no absolute and unequivocal proof regarding spousal abuse allegations and the child has not witnessed any such event, then removal of the child from the accused parent would be inexcusable, undoubtedly a crime against humanity, and most likely a legal criminal act.

Once alienators and their supporters begin their targeting and attacking campaigns, human nature dictates defense and responses which would never be exercised under normal conditions by the targeted parent. When the alienators and their supporters have forced this vicious and destructive cycle to begin is when all problems, harm, and damage for the poor children and targeted parents escalate at astronomical speed and to frightening levels.

After these horrible persons have accomplished their cruel agendas and campaigns, the vast majority being malicious mothers, it is very difficult or even impossible to undue the severe harm done to the poor victimized children and targeted parents, even after the children are fully grown and on their own. The alienators and their supporters do not care, are usually extremely psychologically dysfunctional, and most often are completely indifferent to the fact that they are guaranteeing failure regarding the normal functional growth of their own children, psychologically, and sometimes even physically. There are some exceptions regarding any healing and awareness of just "who did what" once the child is grown, but not in the majority of cases.

In the vast majority of these Parental Alienation cases, mostly created, caused, and continued by malicious mothers, the victimized/alienated child grows up full of hatred, bitterness, and extreme, unjustified, misplaced hostility toward the targeted parent, usually being the father, most often for life. These damaged children will never be able to have the fond memories of being with their dads as they should, which were literally stolen by these alienators and supporters. They will never be able to enjoy the wonderful and bonded life with both their parents as is ordered by and is doctrine according to all known Christian faiths, which our country was founded upon.

Parental Alienation and Hostile Parenting is very wrong, is a sickness, and should be legally/expertly handled with extreme care, caution, and thoroughness, exercising kindness, empathy, compassion, and most of all, objectivity regarding the accused parent and the child. In most cases it has been unequivocally proven that it is the accusing mother who is most guilty of all, and Judges should definitely focus their attention upon them first and foremost, short of any actual proof to the contrary. All decisions and rulings need to be based upon "ABSOLUTE PROOF", only, never upon "hearsay", "assumptions", "jumping to conclusions", "prejudice/bias", or "he said, she said", as just a few of many examples which alienators and their supporters exercise within these heinous cases.

For a grown person to turn a "blind eye" to this epidemic problem and need, especially if they are related to a victim of Parental Alienation, would be irresponsible and wrong, and this may very well create it's own set of problems. Targeted kids and parents desperately need all the ongoing appropriate and proper assistance, love, and support possible, especially from the targeted parent's family members, the alienated child's older teenage or grown siblings, extended family members, and additionally from the best attorneys, best experts, best Judges, and friends. The financial needs for these alienatied children and targeted parents are astronomical.

Any parent or person who creates, causes, and continues this type of heinous and abusive behavior, does not deserve the privilege of having children or ever being allowed around them, unless and until they are unequivocally proven to be fully healed and able to do so. But, only after proper punishment has been implemented and has successfully come to fruition. In any event, every effort must be made to do whatever necessary to ensure that a child has both of his or her parents equally in a positive way throughout their childhood and adolescence, as this is absolutely essential for the child's development and adulthood...don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

The happiest and best of children and adults come from a childhood and adolescence of positive and equal parenting full of love and support for the parent/child relationships. Only when unequivocally proven and deemed impossible for a full healing to reconciliation/reunification of the parent/child relationship, should there ever be consideration given to any degree regarding the estrangement of a child and their parent. "ABSOLUTE PROOF" must be the definitive and operative term regarding all facets within these cases...children's lives, health, and well-being are at stake, not to mention the targeted parents, their family and extended family!

TORONTO SUN NEWS - By Mindelle Jacobs (6.12.09)

Most fathers who've been denied access to their kids by demented ex-wives give up the fight rather than bankrupting themselves in lengthy court battles. A Toronto surgeon had the money -- and the persistence -- to keep going.

He won sole custody of his three daughters because his ex-wife spent more than a decade brainwashing the children to hate him. She was subsequently fined $35,000 for contempt for ignoring repeated orders to get counselling. And on Tuesday, an Ontario judge imposed an even harsher punishment, ordering her to pay more than $250,000 of her ex-husband's court costs. The father's expenses were "a litigant's worst nightmare," declared Ontario Superior Court Justice Faye McWatt. "She has acted deceitfully and in bad faith throughout the litigation."

If the mother in this case had been jailed the first time she ignored court-ordered access, everyone would have been better off. The mother would have learned the courts don't take kindly to breaches of court orders, the father would have been able to bond with his children much earlier and court resources could have been used for more worthwhile purposes. It's a pleasant surprise that the mother was actually punished; better late than never.

Still, the father likely faces a huge challenge winning over his kids. Reversing the damage done by a parent who spends years alienating the children from the other spouse is a long-term process. These girls, now aged 14, 11 and 10, may forever be damaged by their mother's sick, selfish actions -- behaviour McWatt bluntly described as "emotional abuse."

The couple split up in 1999 but K.D., as the mother is known, denied A.L., her ex, virtually any access. At the same time, she was over-protective of the kids to the point of infantilizing them. The oldest child wasn't even toilet-trained at the age of five. The middle girl was still using a bottle at night when she was three. One psychologist warned as early as 2000 that the children were at "significant risk" of being alienated from the father.

A.L. gave up fighting for access for about six years because his ex warned that if he pressured her, he wouldn't get anything. But it didn't matter what he did. He still didn't get to see his daughters. He only saw them for two weekends between 2000 and 2006. Then K.D. wouldn't even allow him to speak to them. For a while, there was still a bond between father and daughters. Early on, one daughter would hug him and warn: "Don't tell mommy I did this." By 2006, though, the bond seemed broken. The oldest showed no affection, the middle daughter stopped looking at him and the youngest only spoke to him in a monotone.

A NUTBAR
It's been 11 years since the release of the parliamentary report on child custody and access, with its dozens of recommendations, including the proposal that the terms "custody and access" be replaced with "shared parenting" in the Divorce Act. But that assumes both parents are reasonable. In this case, the mother is clearly a nutbar who used her kids as weapons against her ex. Jail might have taught her a lesson a lot sooner.

A.L. is "exhausted but very, very happy. He has his children," says his lawyer, Harold Niman. "This kind of case will hopefully send a message to those people who think it's OK to undermine a relationship between the children and the other parent."
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Another newspaper article of this ground-breaking and fast-becoming international story is located on the drop-down "Parental Alienation Links" menu at the bottom of this page. This Judge is an African-Canadian female justice who has most DEFINITELY earned the respect of all the millions of wronged alienated parents, the vast majority being fathers. It's a shame that she is not presiding over John's case and so many other fathers' cases. Then, perhaps there would actually be a correct and just ruling made for a change, these guilty mothers and their supporters would be severely punished, then hopefully can be healed for the sakes and well-being of these poor victimized children and their fathers.